How to Chat Online Using Dating Websites

Talking to new people online is being made easier thanks to the many technologies brought on by the internet. We can now message each other instantly, and even talk via the use of microphones and webcams; and this has without a doubt changed the dating landscape; for the good of course. But just because we can talk online doesn’t mean that we can get an instantly successful date; and as such there are things to say and not to say; to do’s and not to do’s. Let’s just take a look at those.


Starting at the right place

Ultimately, finding people at the right place will be a major factor in our successful dating. When we say: “starting at the right place”, what we really mean is: “using the right website”. This might sound logical but if you are after a serious relationship, then you should be approaching people on a dating site which offers to couple people together for long-term commitments. On the other side if you are just looking for a casual encounter, then use websites such as where people are there just to have fun. It makes sense to approach people about love on a love platform, and to keep sex talk on a sex type of platform.

Things to do

The things you will say about yourself will once again be very relevant of the type of activity you are looking for. So if you are looking for a committed partner, you will talk about your life aspirations, you ambitions, your values and generally talk about aspects of your life that are relevant to having a family life. On the other end of the spectrum if you are just there for some casual sex, then you will focus more on talking about what you enjoy doing in bed, what makes you tick and what you have to offer sexually.

Serious relationship talk can better take place once you actually meet with the person, but sex talk and webcams can combine together to be used as a way to turn each other on, even to get your rocks off. In either situation, you should treat the other person with respect, be polite and pleasant and most importantly, make sure you take the time to listen to what they have to say. You are not having a monologue here, serious coupling and sex are both a two-way stream. The more you listen to the other person, the better you get to know them and the more you get to know if they are the right one for you.

Things to avoid

Being nice, polite and pleasant is the right way, therefore being selfish and rude is the wrong way. No-one wants to be treated badly, the only exception being if people enjoy domineering games, but that’s a whole different kettle of fish all together. It’s easy to understand that people looking for a serious relationship will remain polite and calm, but the same approach should also be maintained if you are just looking for sex. In other words, just because you are looking for sex doesn’t mean you have to talk badly to the other person. Whatever you might have seen in porn movies, forget about it all. There will be a time for dirty talk, but not at first; you need to make the person and yourself to be comfortable. Furthermore, don’t ask for personal details, and don’t give out any neither until you’re at a point when you are comfortable to do so.

The true way to speak to people online is the same as meeting people in real life: just be respectful, act nice, be polite, don’t let people talk you down and your online chats will go well, hopefully leading you to find the love of your life, or just for that one night!